Are you into her, but just not getting the feedback you’d
expect? Dating Expert Brooke Lewis schools us on how to handle “hard to
get.”
As a single woman and Dating Expert, you will often hear me quote,
“Don’t hate the player, hate the game.” And, as much as men and women
hate to admit it, there is always a game in the game of love.
I know, because I have played many and have prided myself on being
“hard to get.” I also know because some of my games have worked and
others have shamefully backfired.
So, Guys, take a few expert advice tips from a Lady who has been there:
1. Make sure she’s genuinely playing hard to get and not super busy.
I know, we all hate the busy word. And, yes, we can choose to perceive
it as an excuse; but I can tell you firsthand, I have been accused of
playing hard to get or intentionally not being available when, in fact, I
have been working 15-hour days. If I am speaking at an event or filming
on set for 12 hours straight, I am not playing hard to get, but may not
even have my phone to call or text you back, and I certainly don’t have
time to see you for dinner that night.
Guys, like you, women are busier than ever. More and more women are
uber focused on their careers. They are traveling for work and some are
working more than one job to stay afloat. Divorce rates are higher than
ever, so it is likely you are also meeting single moms who are
responsible for their children first. If any of you are single dads,
then you know that priorities shift when you have children. Some of
these women will be both career women and single moms, at which they
will truly be challenged with time to date you.
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Now, Guys, I want to be clear, this does not mean that we don’t want
to spend time with you, but that we really don’t have it to give you
right now. Give it time, pay attention and feel it out. You will know
quickly which woman is playing and which is truly busy, but is also into
you. The latter will make an effort to see you as soon as she can.
2. Stop asking women out last minute and start making plans.
Guys, this is one of my personal pet peeves. I am a rules girl and I
choose not to accept a date the night of and, quite frankly, often not
past Thursday morning for a weekend date. Now, there are always
exceptions and last minute fun events or basketball tickets that come
up, but we are focusing here on the beginning stages of dating, so humor
me.
My girlfriends and I have talked this topic to death and we have all
said “no” to last minute dates and, of course, been accused of playing
hard to get for it. Believe me, it is not always easy and I have had to
have serious self-control to pass up a date with that sexy man who I had
the hots for on the other end of the phone.
Remember, we teach people how to treat us. Guys, women want to be
courted and made to feel special. They don’t want to feel like a last
minute plan or an afterthought. This may present itself as a game, but
with a little extra planning to ask a date out in advance, I’ll bet
you’ll hear a lot more “yes’s” and feel like women are a lot less hard
to get.
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