There are healthy arguments, but when it gets to the point of shouting and raising the roof then it’s probably no longer healthy; couples sometimes argue and fight like kids over things that aren’t even worth it and there are certain arguments couples should probably stop so as not to ruin their relationship/marriage.
MONEY: “Money is like a two-edged sword; it answers all things and it also brings a lot of problems if care isn’t taken; the issue of money isn’t one that’s worth the hassle, because it would bring a lot of negativity in that union, caution should be exercised whenever the issue of money is raised”.
IN-LAWS: “In-laws are a common cause of many arguments and fights in a lot of marriages, the mother-in-law especially; when you start fighting and quarreling with your partner over what the in-law did, didn’t do or was supposed to do then that’s one fight that might last throughout the existence of that marriage, no matter how right or wrong you are, your partner would almost always be biased regarding his/her family because that’s the family they have known all their life before meeting you, so things wouldn’t just change overnight, in-laws aren’t worth the fight with your spouse; the issue of in-laws should be treated with caution”.
HABITS: “Couples argue, quarrel and even fight about habits of their partner that they don’t like; if you have quarrelled and complained a lot of times and it didn’t work then it means you aren’t taking the right approach, habits are formed over a period of time, so it means it could probably take a period of time to eradicate; learn to coach and support your partner to end a habit you don’t like”.
WHO’S RIGHT AND WHO’S WRONG: “In a marriage or relationship, this is one scene that always pans out; one partner is always right and the other is always wrong, or both always claim to be right, meaning no one’s actually wrong; this scene isn’t one that always pan out well; the always-right attitude is one that creates rivalry and unnecessary bust ups, when both partners claim to be right then it means they are both wrong and should sort things out for themselves”.
UNFORGIVING/BRINGING BACK OLD DEEDS: “Couples should try to learn that when a deed is done and is in the past then for the sake of that marriage or relationship it shouldn’t probably be brought up again; when a partner becomes a victim of the other partner always bringing out a timeline of their past mistakes then it could leave such a person angry and unhappy, when it’s past, let it be but if you are a partner that continually brings up old and even very old deeds then it means that you lack a forgiving heart”.