1. You can come back from a fight.
It’s not a good sign if you bicker nonstop. But, when you engage in an argument, you can each recover and are more open to the other’s needs you’re in good shape to say “I do,” according to our experts.
“Couples often struggle when their partner goes into a more primitive fight-and-flight response,” describes David Klow, LMFT at Skylight Counseling Center in Skokie, Illinois. “If your partner knows how to stay open and present, rather than shut down, then you have good chance of making it through tough times. At the very least, if he or she knows how to call a time out and return later to the conversation, then that is a very good sign.”
#2. You make one another laugh.
As they say, laughter is the best medicine. And as it turns out, tickling your partner’s funny bone can be the healing a healthy relationship needs — and a sure sign you’re ready to tie the knot.
“It’s not just about having fun,” describes Roudabeh Rahbar, PsyD., licensed clinical psychologist in Southern California. “Laughter in a relationship is a sign that both people can be vulnerable with one another. If your partner can make fun of himself, that is a huge plus because it’s indicative of a person who can truly be vulnerable and has confidence — think: George Clooney.”

3. Your relationship has been (successfully) tested.
Any relationship can appear on the road to marriage when it’s fresh, shiny, and new. In these conditions, says Los Angeles-based relationship expert Rhonda Richards-Smith, “it may appear as though your relationship is ideal. But it is often through personal challenges, heartache, and disappointment that we really see what our romantic relationships are made of.”
So if you’ve stayed together through a tough time and still have a positive outlook, you’ve been given a sign you’re with someone you could marry. “Give yourself some time to allow the relationship to withstand some of life’s tests before taking the next step,” Richards-Smith recommends
#4. You feel totally comfortable around one another.
When our experts say you should feel comfortable with anyone you might see as future spouse, they don’t mean you can wear your sweatpants in front of him or her.
“When someone is fully comfortable with his or her romantic partner, he or she feels safe, honored, and respected,” explains Janelle Alex, Ph.D., transpersonal counselor. And with that kind of comfortable transparency, she says, “a person can follow his or her dreams knowing his or her lover will be there. Even more exciting is the fact that his or her romantic partner in life will be willing to explore their intimate in the bedroom together without judgment, but while sharing laughter and excitement.”

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