While some people believe that se'x is no big deal in a relationship or marriage, others see it as something they only want to share with someone special to them.
The fact is, no sane person would want to force his or her partner/spouse to have se'x with them.
So if you've reached that point in your relationship where you want to take it to the next level, you can always soothe some of his/her fears and reassure him/her that you are really a person he or she can fully trust.
After you do some of the below magical tricks, you can be rest assured that se'x will come naturally:
1. Be Dependable:
If you want to make your partner/spouse want to have se'x with you, then you should show him/her what an amazingly dependable person you are. If your girl is going to trust you enough to have se'x with you, whether it's her first time or if she's had se'x before, then she has to feel like she can depend on you. One of her fears may be that as soon as you have se'x, she won't be able to rely on you anymore because you would have gotten what you wanted. So, prove her wrong by being an upstanding and dependable guy.
2. Give it time:
Some guys can be ready to have se'x with a girl in the time it takes to down a beer, while some girls can take months, or even longer, to decide that they're ready to make love. And some girls -- sorry, gentlemen -- are really adamant about holding out for the one, and don't even want to have se'x before marriage. So, don't rush into it -- wait for the girl to trust you first. If you want to make your girlfriend want to have se'x with you, the worst thing you can do is bring it up or try to force it when it's way too early. This will turn your girlfriend off and will make her much less likely to sleep with you.
3. Don't act like you're obsessed with se'x:
Let's face it -- if you're a male of a certain age who is desperate for his girlfriend to have se'x with him, then you probably are obsessed with se'x. But that doesn't mean you have to make jokes, innuendos, or even blatant references to se'x all the time. The last thing you want your girlfriend to think is that you're a horndog who is so obsessed with se'x that you don't care which lady comes into your bed. You should make her feel special, like you want only her.
4. Be Loyal:
If you want to make your girlfriend trust you, then you have to be loyal to her. She'll never have se'x with you if she thinks you're talking to or checking out other women, or even hanging out with other women. Though you don't have to be rude to or ignore other women, you should have a laser-sharp focus on your girlfriend so she knows that you will always be there for her, especially after you start having se'x.
5. Make Sure She Is Ready For Se'x:
If you really want to treat your lady well, then you have to be able to have an idea about whether or not she's ready for se'x. If you're her first boyfriend, if she's se'xually inexperienced, or if she's deeply religious or has other moral convictions that make her steadfast about not having se'x, then you should back off and wait for her to trust you enough to even consider having se'x with you.
6. Be Prepared:
If you plan on trying to have se'x, or even talking about having se'x with your girl, then you should be prepared with some condoms in case the mood strikes her. If she wants to have se'x and you have to run out to the drug store for some condoms, this may make your first se'xual experience fall flat
If you want your girl to have se'x with you, then you have to set the mood. You should start the evening by doing something romantic to soften her up. Then, go back to your (clean) apartment, which should be stocked with red wine, grapes, chocolate, and some light jazz on the radio. Light the candles and turn the radio on to get her in a romantic mindset, and offer her something to eat or drink.
8. Kiss Her:
If you want your girl to have se'x with you, then you have to be a master kisser. Even if you've been kissing for a while, you should still know how to kiss her in a variety of ways and make your kisses feel fresh. Don't overwhelm her and grope her the second you lock lips. Instead, take it slow, grazing your lips as you touch her hair or stroke her face.Take breaks from kissing so she has time to come up for air and want you even more.You are not very likely to have se'x with your girlfriend if all you've done is kiss. It takes a bit longer for things to reach a natural progression.
9. Play Hard To Get:
If you really want to make your girlfriend want you, then you shouldn't act like a se'xual beast, moving rapidly from kissing to touching, to ripping off your clothes and practically levitating into the bedroom. Instead, you should kiss your girlfriend for a few seconds, then hold back, stroke her, and talk to her. Repeat this move a few times and wait for her to go wild. Why does playing hard to get work? Because this will make your girlfriend feel like you like her, but that you're in control of your desires and aren't desperate to get your hands all over her -- even if you are. This will make her want to be the one who asks for more.
10. Touch Her:
If you want to turn on your girlfriend, you can start thinking about doing more than just kissing. Begin by lightly caressing her arms, the back of her head and hair, and then, as things progress, stroke her breasts under her shirt or wait for her to touch you. If your clothes are off or partly off, you can kiss her breasts or touch her through her underwear to get her in the mood.
11. Don't Pressure Her:
If your girlfriend says she's not ready to have se'x with you, then you shouldn't pressure her. Don't try making any arguments -- saying things like, "But we've been together for so long," "Everyone else is doing it," or "But I really, really like you," isn't going to make her feel any better. In fact, trying to reason with her will only make her more frustrated, annoyed, and much less likely to sleep with you.