Lack of confidence: She says, "Make sure you're feeling confident enough
to handle dating, "People go because they're feeling desperate, and
that's exactly the wrong time to go on dates. "Wear something
comfortable that makes you feel good about yourself."
Constantly thinking there is 'the one': "People come to me and say 'I'd
like to meet the one'. "You're unlikely to meet one person who is
absolutely perfect for you; you are likely to meet lots of people who
are good for you," Bloomfield says.
Dishonesty after a first date: The couples counsellor says, "A lot of
dates go wrong because people are either too shy or worried about being
rejected. They end the date without making any decisions. "If you like
the person, tell them you like them and would like to see them again.
"If you're not sure if you like them, say something like 'shall we think
about over night'. "If you don't like them, find something to say. The
best thing is something like 'I'm not sure that we've got enough in
common. "Be clear with them. If they're a definite no let them down
gently but firmly "Don't leave it hanging. So many dates and
relationships fall down because most people are shy and unsure and they
leave it hanging in the air and haven't got the nerve to get in touch
No engaging conversation: "People who go on dates have got to learn to
look interested. "People who are having a great deal of difficulty with
relationships are the ones that fall into the long boring monologues
about themselves."I know this, I went on 27 dates to research it and I
met 26 people who did this." "Wear something comfortable that makes you
feel good about yourself", Bloomfield says.