Be honest with yourselves
The tendency to control a spouse can emerge slowly in response to hurts or character weaknesses or it can be present at the very beginning of a marriage. This serious personality conflict creates a great deal of tension and unhappiness in marriage.
If you feel that your spouse has not been honest with the truth or making you feel vulnerable, find a good time and place to start the discussion and ask your spouse how much honesty he or she feels is necessary for a happy marriage. You should also be ready to make your own contribution by giving an honest opinion; that, certainly, is a good place to start.
Marriage between lovers can be dominated with secrets, but marriage between best friends has no hidden places for secrets and mind-boggling issues. It is important to communicate all your fears and worries to your spouse as they emerge. If there are any issues you’ve been holding on to, now is the time to clear your minds so that you can both start to enjoy openness and honesty in your marriage.
Be your best friends
The common setback many couples facing marital challenges have is building stronger relationships with friends while they neglect their own homes. If your friend is still single, there is a possibility that he/she may become uncomfortable with your new status and discussing your love life and marriage issues with friends can be detrimental to your marriage in the end.
On the other hand, your spouse can feel extremely vulnerable and disappointed if he finds out that you have been confiding in your friends or your family. Therefore, it is better to try and resolve delicate issues with your spouse.
Don't go telling your mum or dad things in your home; you should learn to trust your spouse. It's the best.
- by Elizabeth Badejo