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Your relationship wounds do not just disappear into a little space, breakups are one of most painful transitions we all endure, the pain of losing a partner one loves, shared one’s heart, dreams and aspirations with can be very devastating, breakups also open old wounds from past breakups which are why they take sometimes to heal.
“Many people remain stuck on their ex and can’t move forward, they are caught in a negative spiral of trying to figure out what went wrong in their relationship, feeling angry at themselves or at their ex, or stuck in a depressed or anxious state, they may also be in a new and healthy relationship, but still ruminating on a past love”.
You’re stuck in the blame-game or the guilt-game: “A breakup, like all transitions, is an opportunity to learn about yourself and grow, unfortunately, because most people have a difficult time tolerating emotional pain, the ego steps in and turns to obsessing about why the breakup occurred, either blaming everything on your partner or yourself”.Low self-esteem
Low self-esteem: “How much you like yourself and how significant you feel can affect how you feel about your ex, if you think no one else will want you, you might want to go back to them just because it’s easy and attainable”.
You haven’t let yourself grieve to completion: “One person may grieve fully and feel complete after a few weeks and another person will need nine months or longer to fully process the pain of a breakup, attending to your heartbreak with compassion and curiosity, instead of trying to “get over it” or avoid it through distractions, is the single-most important action you can take in the aftermath of a breakup grieving is the medicine for loss when the grief is truncated, it stagnates in the body, damming up your natural flow of energy and prohibiting you from moving forward with joy”.
You took it too personally: “A lot of the time, the pain we feel after a breakup is really the throb of a severely bruised ego, rejection hurts, even if it had nothing to do with you, it can still sting and make you feel like you’re somehow not good enough and sometimes two people just aren’t a match, it’s as simple as that”.





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