In as much as the first impression matters a lot at the beginning of every relationship, one should never let one’s boundaries slip whether for friendship or dating and you should know when someone is crossing their boundaries in your relationship especially if it is someone you are dating.
“As you and your man begin to know each other, there are several things you are meant to overlook and others you are not allowed to let slide which means sticking to your standards at the start of your relationship is very important, no matter how excited you are about your new romance”. In a relationship, there are some things you should never slide and some things you don’t owe any man no matter how much you love him.
Below are 5 things you don’t owe any man.
You don’t owe him an explanation about why you’re not married: “Being cross-examined about why you’re “still” single puts you on the defensive and it makes you feel judged as well as vulnerable at times but there are damn good reasons why you’re single so stop telling yourself that being married is OK and being single is not, whether single by choice or by chance, there’s nothing wrong with you and you don’t need to justify where you are in life”.
You definitely don’t owe him s3x before you’re ready: “Just because he wants to have s3x with you doesn’t mean you have to go through with it, if you feel pressure, either real or imagined, don’t do it just to make him happy or to make him like you, taking you out and spending his money on you does not equate to purchasing access to your body! Remember, once given, it can’t be taken back”.
You don’t owe him monogamy until it’s mutually agreed upon: “If a man wants exclusivity from you, even if he’s not exclusive with you, the answer is no, it’s a simple concept really: don’t commit to him more than he’s committed to you and when he’s truly serious about you, he will stick to only you and if he doesn’t, well, he’s just not ready.
You don’t have to drink or do drugs with him: “Men who do drugs and drink usually like company so he’ll want you to join him, know what’s right for you and don’t change your habits or boundaries to please him”. What are you doing with a man that drinks excessively or do drugs in the first instance?
You never owe him an apology for being authentically you: “If he judges what you eat, what you wear, or how you look … beware, if he labels your beliefs wrong or silly, think twice please don’t make excuses or justify your choices to a man who doesn’t “get you”. “Be who you are and be proud, knowing what you don’t owe a man hopefully reminds you of what you DO owe yourself honour your own boundaries, trust that you know what is right for you, and most importantly, don’t change who you are for ANYONE (a man you’re dating or otherwise)”.

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