A woman has begged relationship expert, Deidre to help her out of a predicament as she has been sneaking out to have séx with a co-worker.
I have been having great séx with a younger guy from work. I would like nothing better than to leave my husband for him but he’s married too. My husband and I have been together for 23 years. We met when I was a student of 19. He was 22 and seemed a man of the world. I was bowled over.
I did not realise that what I saw as grown-up and masterful was actually a controlling nature. My job involves liaising with employees in other departments. One guy was particularly attentive. He always noticed what I wore and when I’d had my hair done.
I suppose the attention and flattery went to my head. I found excuses to go and chat with him more often.
I could not believe how exciting and satisfying séx could be. I don’t think it was ever like that with my husband. I love my husband in a way but I am not in love with him. He has always been such a jealous man. I am not allowed to go out with girlfriends or visit my family as often as I would like.
It is important to me to have a good sex life and a life of my own, rather than just doing what my husband wants. I am 44 now and our two sons are grown up. One is living with his girlfriend and the other one is in the Army.
My new man is 29 and married with a daughter of three. We have tried to stop seeing one another but we always go back on our decision after a week or two.
I am prepared to walk away from my marriage with nothing and my lover is prepared to walk away from his if I will — so why do I hesitate?