Below are things to do when you are heart broken.
Accept the pain: “Accept that you will have to go through some pain, it is an unavoidable truth that if you loved enough to be heartbroken, you have to experience some suffering because when one loses something that mattered to one, it is natural and important to feel sad about it: that feeling is an essential part of the healing process”.
Change your habits: “Now you have to break those connections, turn off the music that reminds you of your ex and make your home looks and feels different from when your loved one was around”.
Change your thoughts: “The next step is to do the same thing on the inside – transform your habits of thought, in a relationship, we build up a huge array of such habits and when the love affair ends, these patterns can still be running so t”o change your thinking habits, you need to understand a little more about them.
View your relationship from the outside: “Think about the break-up of your relationship, what are the judgments or generalizations you have made about yourself and your ex?”.
Change how you see yourself and him: “Focus on your mental picture of your lost love, by changing how you represent your ex in your mind, you can greatly reduce or even eliminate your distress so you must learn to control your ‘visualisation’ as memory and imagination affect our feelings in the same way as reality does”.
Fall out of love for good: “Now you are ready to tackle the central problem using the visualisation technique, part of being heartbroken is the fact that you still feel in love and it hurts because part of you is still attached to your ex, this exercise helps that piece of you release itself”.
Understand your emotions: “Learn to understand your emotional reactions better, your feelings of heartbreak are unlikely to disappear unless you cope with what they are trying to tell you, opening the door to your feelings means learning to understand them, this can be hard, because heartbreak is complicated by other feelings: anger, fear and shame”.
Believe that you will find love again: “You could fall into the trap of remaining convinced that your ex is the only person you could ever love, this is unlikely to be true on a planet with six billion people or more”.
Live happily after your breakup: “A good way of giving yourself a boost and coping with complicated feelings is to imagine a bright future, open the door, and see beyond it the world in which you have recovered from your heartbreaking relationship”.