Falling in love is easy but what about maintaining a happy, healthy relationship?well, that is the hard part and there are some relationship myths that make couples set themselves up for failure, those myths are unhealthy and unrealistic since they tend to be based on fairy tales.
Opposites attract: “This is one of those myths that are ingrained in us as teenagers: the good girl falls for the bad boy and while there is some truth to it — extroverts tend to be attracted to introverts but the key to a successful relationship is to complement one another, this means looking for someone who has the qualities you lack as it is also a big plus to have similarities in your personal history, as well as interests in common and coming from a similar background will make it easier for you and your partner to relate to one another”.
Happy couples never fight: “A lot of couples fall for this misconception but the truth is all couples have differences, and fighting is not a sign that you’re with the wrong person, in fact, it’s healthy to debate issues as you’re not always going to see eye-to-eye, and that’s okay but what is important is being diplomatic during arguments, and not judging or being critical of your spouse, speaking the truth without blame and judgment will establish trust and strengthen your bond”.
Good relationships are easy and don’t require work: “The reality is a lot different, you don’t know a person until you’ve been with them for a while, in the beginning of a relationship, you’re both putting your best foot forward but eventually your flaws start to show, and your partner has to learn how to deal and recognizing that all relationships take work will keep you from feeling disappointed later on”.
Getting married or having a baby will solve your relationship problems: “Women who deal with trust issues tend to think that marriage and babies will make their partners more committed but that’s not necessarily the case, rather than solve your problems, having a baby may actually create new issues that will only add to the ones you’re already dealing with but to improve your bond, you have to look at what’s happening inside the relationship rather than looking to outside forces to fix it”.
All men are prone to cheat: “This myth is endlessly supported by the media, so it’s no surprise that a lot of us fall for it but the reality is not that all men are cheaters, and buying into this myth can have negative consequences for your relationship, you’ll be less trusting of your partner and constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop but if you want a solid bond, you have to trust your significant other and communicate if you have concerns about his fidelity, it isn’t always easy, but it’s important to be open and honest with one another”.