Do you think your man’s ready to commit?
Or better yet, does he look at you as the one he wants to get married
to? Here are 10 easy ways to find out!
Here’s a scenario for you to think about:
You’re a woman in a relationship with a
great guy. He’s responsible. He’s kind. He’s great in bed. And you
absolutely adore him. Your friends and family seem to think that you’re
in a wonderful and loving relationship.
You’ve been together for quite some time
now, and you’re starting to wonder if he will be the guy you’ll be
spending the rest of your life with. But there’s a catch…
He hasn’t put a ring on it.
Uh oh. Though we hope we’re not
pressuring you, you may start to wonder why he hasn’t popped the
question yet. Maybe all you need is a bit of patience, and all he needs
is a bit of time.
But now that we’ve got the idea into
your mind, you might start to look for signs that he does want to marry
you someday. Obviously, if you want to get married eventually, you’d
have to double check if the guy you’re with is on the same page as you.
10 ways to know if the guy you’re dating wants to marry you
To find out if he wants to marry you
*and that it would be wise to wait for his proposal*, here are some
things you should notice in your guy’s behavior.
#1 “We.” Does
he use the word “we” whenever he’s referring to the both of you as a
couple? It’s more than just a simple pronoun, it’s usage and context can
give you clues about how involved he is with you. Many married couples
also use “we” whenever they’re talking about themselves because each
decision they make is a joint decision.
For instance, when a friend asks about
his vacation plans, his response may be, “We’re thinking of going
backpacking through Europe this summer.” His friend would already know
who “we” refers to. Statements like this show that whenever he has
plans, you’re included, too.
#2 He believes in marriage. There
are some people who have lost faith in the sanctity of marriage thanks
to the rising divorce rates. But not your guy. He maintains the belief
that marriage is something worth fighting for.
Even if people are leaving their
spouses, cheating and getting separations, he wants to give it a shot.
And he thinks that you and he won’t be just another statistic in a
#3 He doesn’t gag when he sees people posting about weddings. Social
media is rife with people who constantly post about weddings. Some have
countdowns leading up to the big day. Others post pictures of their
wedding day months after the actual event.
Your guy may not be a huge fan of this,
and he may think that daily posts about some person’s wedding are a bit
much. But he may say that ‘when’ *not if!* he gets married, he won’t be
as obsessive about it on social media as a ton of other people.
#4 He’s super comfortable around you. Having
your guy hang out in his boxers and socks isn’t the most romantic
thing. But your guy has already dropped the romance act and has opted be
more relaxed and at ease when he’s around you.
That doesn’t mean he’s “letting himself
go.” It just means that whenever he’s around you, he feels like he’s
home and there’s no need to put on a mask. And it’s not just about the
way he presents himself, he’s also able to show you a side of himself
that very few people are able to see.
#5 His family starts to treat you like family too. He
takes you with him whenever he’s meeting his family members. You’re
already on a first name basis with most of his relatives, and they know
more about you than just your first name. You’re also as comfortable
around his relatives as they are with you, as evidenced in how well you
can hold up a conversation with his parents, siblings and other close
Meeting the parents and getting to know
the family is just the first step. But once you’re already a permanent
fixture by his side during family functions, soon enough you just might
become a member of the family.
#6 You’re part of his future plans. Lots
of couples talk about the future. But not all couples involve each
other in their future plans. Most men would probably list down what car
they’d want to be driving, how much money they’d want to make or how
many places he’d like to have visited by then. When he gets asked about
what he sees himself doing in ten years, your name pops up.
He might say that he’d like to be a top
executive by then. He’d be driving his sports car to and from work. And
when he gets home, he’ll be greeted by his kids, and their gorgeous
mother, a.k.a. you! Aside from that being the sweetest thing he might
say, it’s also a clue that tells you that it’s you he wants to spend his
#7 You talk about the kids you’ll be having. Maybe
you’ll have a mock fight about how many kids you want to have and what
you’ll be naming them. You’ll talk about how you’ll be raising them and
where they’ll be attending school. You might even go far enough as to
talk about where you want your kids to attend college!
Talking about kids is a big deal for
most men. Not all of them are looking forward to revamping their home
entertainment room for a playroom for the kids. But if your guy is very
open about it and he actually takes in your input regarding kids, then
that’s good news!
#8 He shares almost everything with you. Whatever
he’s thinking, whatever’s bothering him, you’d be the first person to
know. You’re always a major factor in his decision making process, and
your input bears a lot of weight. But other than this, he may be sharing
other more tangible things with you.
For instance, you might already have a
joint bank account where both of you plan your finances. You might
already be sharing a home or at least considering it as a possibility in
the near future. Marriage has a lot to do about sharing, and when your
guy already shows the initiative that he wants to share with you, then
marriage may not be that far behind.
#9 He asks about wedding and engagement-related stuff. This
is pretty much a no-brainer. He’s starting to ask you things like where
your dream wedding is, who you’d like to invite and what you want to
dance to on your wedding day.
If you’re completely dense, you might
think he’s just asking you to tell him about the wedding of your dreams.
But when he starts snooping around your jewelry box to find out what
size ring you’re wearing, it’s pretty much a certainty!
#10 He’s being giddy and excited about something. He
may suddenly be saving up for something, but you’re not sure what it
is. And for some reason, he’s trying his best not to let you know.
Before you start to think that he’s doing something he shouldn’t be
doing, he’s suddenly really caring and sensitive towards you. He’s being
remarkably sweet, while still trying his best not to show his
excitement about something. You probably know where this is going… He
might be about to propose!