Men usually complain that their women seem to avoid s*x, and they
can”t figure out why. For avoidance of doubt, here are some reasons why
your woman may sometimes turn down your s*xual demand.
You can’t get hard.
In a survey, six percent of women complained that they hate s*x
because their partners had s*xual issues, such as erectile dysfunction.
When a man can’t get hard, s*xologists say, it leads to painful
intercourse for the woman, and also prevents her from achieving 0rgasm.
To make your woman be on the heat for you, just as you are for her, take care of your package and work on your erecti0n.
She finds s*x painful.
S*x should feel good — but 11 percent of the women in a survey
actually reported feeling pain during sex. In fact, a separate study of
nearly 7,000 British women also found that one in 13 women feel physical
pain during s*x.
This made women more likely to feel uninterested in s*x. Plus, they
also had more trouble getting wet and reaching orgasm. Focusing on
foreplay, oral s*x, and using a little lubrication when she needs extra
help can help remedy the situation, says lead study author Kirstin
Mitchell, Ph.D. Focusing on making her feel good will lead to less pain
and more arousal, which ultimately leads to more (and better) s*x for
the both of you.
She is anxious.
Thirteen percent of women in the survey reported avoiding s*x
because they were anxious. This could potentially stem from any pain
she’s feeling.
In the study mentioned above, women often felt anxious during s*x
because they started anticipating painful s*x, Mitchell explains.
Feeling self-conscious about it can also make her feel nervous, as she
may not want to bring it up and hurt your feelings. If things feel
awkward, just communicate with her: Openly ask if what you’re doing
feels good and go from there.
There’s a lack of intimacy.
Just over 10 percent of women reported avoiding s*x due to a lack
of intimacy. Feeling connected to you is crucial for her, since research
shows that women have trouble reaching 0rgasm if they’re not
psychologically aroused. That means you can’t just push the right
buttons physically — she has to feel mentally turned on, too.
She’s too tired.
A quarter of women reported avoiding sex because they were too
tired — which shouldn’t be too surprising, considering a 2010 poll from
the National Sleep Foundation found that married people or couples
living together were too tired for frequent s*x 21 to 26 percent of the
time.
Plus, if she regularly goes to bed earlier than you, it may also be
a sign that she doesn’t find s*x terribly exciting. Try initiating s*x
earlier in the night to pique her interest.
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