Love can make one blind to all the signs that one is in a bad relationship because it will become difficult to accept that one’s love can do awful things and at times have dangerous qualities. We understand the fact that no one is perfect and that people tend to change but some problems and changes can only be taken care of by ending the relationship and breaking all ties with your partner.
Below are some things you should never ever tolerate in a relationship no matter how much you love your partner.
Emotional or verbal abuse:“Real love does not devalue another human being, so many of us accept emotional abuse without realizing it, physical abuse comes with bruises you can see, but emotional abuse is characterized by manipulative comments and controlling behaviour that cause self-doubt, low self-esteem, withdrawal from family and friends, depression, illness, anxiety, and giving up on goals”.
Physical abuse:“If your partner is physically abusing you, gathering the courage, strength, and ability to leave is a long, difficult process that can be complicated by economic barriers, among other issues so be kind to yourself, while also recognizing that you do not deserve this treatment and have every right to leave the relationship”.
A partner making you feel horrible when you don’t want to have s3x:“It’s important to recognize that partner/marital rape can happen in otherwise non-violent relationships and to remember that consenting to a s3xual act once does not mean consenting to a s3xual act for all time, if your partner pressures you to engage in unwanted s3xual activities because it is your “duty” or because you “owe” them, the relationship is abusive, unhealthy, and unsafe, and you deserve so much better”
Body Shaming:“When your partner shames you for your weight, appearance, etc., not only is it cruel, immature but it can also be a manipulative way to convince you that you’ll never be good enough for anybody else; that you can’t leave your relationship, because no one else will ever love you, it’s a sickening method of establishing dominance and control in a relationship, you’re beautiful and you don’t have to stay with a person whose internal ugliness leads them to try and convince you otherwise”.
“A humongous relationship red flag is a partner trying to isolate you from the people who have been in your life since before the relationship”.
“It’s impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who doesn’t want to see you succeed, it’s one thing for your partner to provide constructive criticism, or to express frustration if your career has you ignoring the relationship but if your partner’s insecurity, jealousy, controlling nature, sexist ideology, etc. causes them to actively insult your work ethic, mock your achievements, or even convince you to turn down opportunities, then you need to either confront the issue or walk away from the relationship”.