After all, if s ex was purely about two
people reaching orgasm, then we would more naturally engage in
activities that involve more direct genital stimulation.
Intercourse is a natural progression from kissing to a man
capitalising on his sex ual arousal to
‘make love’ to a woman.The heterosexual act of vag inal inter course
is designed foremost as an expression of love between a man and
When a woman is amenable to accepting a
man’s sex ual initiative, intercourse allows her body to provide him
with the sex ual release of org asm.
Penetration provides the maximum
turn-on for a man and signifies a high level of trust and intimacy
between two people. Intercourse represents the most personal
acceptance that a woman can offer that can be emotionally rewarding
for a man (especially if her sex ual acceptance is awarded sparingly).
we may use org asm as a measure of the frequency of female activity,
and may emphasize the significance of orgasm as a source of
physiologic outlet and of social interchange for the female, it must
always be understood that we are well aware that this is not the only
significant part of a satisfactory sex ual relationship.
is much more true for the female than it would be for the male. It is
inconceivable that males who are not reaching org asm would continue
their marital coitus for any length of time.” (p371 Se xual behavior in
the human female 1953)
Many women see sex as a loving and sensual act with a man they love. The vast majority of women are not interested in the er oticism and physical se x play (focused on genital stimulation) that would lead to their own sexual arousal and or gasm.
The se xual revolution implied that
women’s s exuality could become more like men’s simply as a result of a
change in attitudes. In fact, many women settled for faking or gasm to
keep men happy rather than being motivated to reach or gasm with a partner.