Dealing with premature ejaculation can be a real killer in any relationship but the good news is that with the right advice you can learn how to last longer in bed and get your love life back on track.
Author of the top selling book Last
Longer Now, Adam Davey says the best way to increase your lasting time
in bed is to treat your sexual performance as something that can be
developed and improved through using the correct techniques and doing
Adam points out that training to last
longer in bed is really not much different to how you would train to
improve at a sport. He says most guys who tend to ejaculate prematurely
do not have anything wrong with them.
They just have never been taught all the skills and techniques a guy need to know to be able to control the ejaculatory system.
While learning all of these many skills
will take a few weeks to master completely, here are 5 great ways to
help you start lasting longer in bed right away. Why not put them into
Get you breathing right
This is number one for good reason, and
that’s because is dead easy to do and it can start helping you straight
away. The truth is most guys who have a hard time lasting bed don’t
breath correctly so it’s important to get this right. Don’t forget – you
should start this breathing technique before you have begun intercourse
otherwise it can be too late. Here’s what to do:
Breath in steadily but deeply for 10 –
12 seconds Hold for just a moment – no longer than 2 seconds Exhale
steadily for 12 to 15 seconds And it’s as simple as that. While you are
breathing out, try to imagine your whole body relaxing as all the stress
and tension is being released from your body
Start with the right position
For guys who have a hard time lasting in
bed the initial two minutes on intercourse are the real danger time.
After this initial period the odds of you being able to last longer
start to increase rapidly. That’s why you should always start with a
position you feel comfortable with to give you a chance to get used to
the sexual sensation allowing you to work your way into it.
All guys a different in the way each
position stimulates them but as a general rule the positions where you
use you core muscles less are better for lasting such as where you lying
on your back or side. Then one you have got used to the feeling you can
switch to some other positions.
Get in the zone
You may have heard of the distraction
technique before, or even tried it yourself by trying to think of
anything but sex to try and decrease your arousal. Well this method is
the opposite to that and it work a lot better.
It’s all about getting in the zone
Here’s what you do – As sex begins you should start really zoning into
everything you are feeling, seeing hearing and touching. Make sure you
are caressing her all over and really focus in on the way her body feels
as you move your hands around. Notice the way the sheets feel on your
skin, the way her hair feels as it brushes your face… I’m talking about
What this will do if done correctly is
two very important things. Firstly it will stop you only thinking about
the sensation on your penls which will reduce some of the perceived
hypersensitivity there, and secondly it will make sure your mind is
keyed in and relaxed. The worst thing you can do during sex is to start
thinking about what will happen if you can’t last in bed so this will
help prevent the chances of that. You partner will also notice how tuned
in you are and she will absolutely love it
Get your grind on
More grinding and less thrusting is the
name of the game and if you do it correctly it will not only elevate
some of the sensations, but also stimulate your partner more thereby
increasing the chances that you will be able to bring her to orgasm.
Remember than for just about all women,
climax is reached not by you just pumping away for hours, but by
pressure applied to her clitoris, so it’s important to use grinding
style position quite a lot no matter who you are.
The methods I’ve shown you above will
surely help add a few minutes to your lasting time, but by completing a
full program and doing a little training just about any guy can develop
total ejaculation control. We have talked about Adam Davey on this site
before. His book is an absolute bible on how to last longer in bed. It’s
called last longer now and you can check out all about it here at his